Why It’s Okay To Make Mistakes (and a Life Update)

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Hello there lovely Buttoneers! We have officially moved house! Hip, Hip, Hooray!! (If you are reading this then I either have internet set up already or I went on an adventure to find some in our new town!) I have more news on that later in the post, but today I wanted to share a bit of a story time/lesson learnt with you all and to be honest document it for myself to look back on in times of need – I rarely take my own advice but maybe if it was written down…here’s to hoping anyway!

A few weeks ago I launched my ‘Just want to nap’ print as number 15 in my Create 30 blog challenge. I had made the print ahead of time because of the move and also ahead of time, had photographed it, edited the photos, written an Etsy shop listing; created a blog post…yadda yadda yadda…you get the point. I had the post sat in my drafts folder for a while and was pretty darn pleased with myself for finally getting a little bit ahead of myself to be able to pack the house up etc.

Just for some context, the whole of the few weeks surrounding this were mega, uber, t-rex dinosaur proportion stressful.

We almost lost the offer on our house, the chain got really messy, no one could agree on a move date, estate agents and solicitors were all in the mix and it was a Mess – with a capital ‘M’. Anyhoo, I had read and re-read that blog post, I checked for spelling and grammar, you name it, I checked it.

I was so excited to launch this print. I had worked hard on colours and getting the right mix of typography and hand lettering, picking the right angles of the felt flower photographs to fit perfectly into the corners – If you know me at all, you will know that I am a total perfectionist.

I released the print, the blog post and launched the Etsy listing into the wild and sighed with relief that another Create 30 blog challenge make was done and dusted and I was super proud of it…

That is until my personal (and not actually a paid job) quality control manager (my sister) emailed me to tell me how much she loved my print but was the quote meant to read “Some Days I Feel like Super Women, Other Days I Just Want to Nap”? or was it meant to say ‘Super Woman‘?

I felt sick. That pit of your stomach sick. That pit of your stomach, freeze-on-the-spot-mid-carrot-stick-chomp, don’t-take-another-breath-until-you-have-processed-the-words-in-front-of-you sick.

You know the one? I couldn’t move. I felt paralysed by the shock and fear and panic whilst at the same time my head was buzzing with thoughts trying to make sense of it all, un-ravel the messy ball of wool in my brain, do something that involved DOING SOMETHING!! I had already gotten 50 likes on Instagram – 50 people had seen it GODDAMMIT!

Then the magic happened…My inner organisation-freak, get-to-it-systematic-minded, problem-solving-fairy-brain kicked in…

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I got to work. I sniffed a bit and blew my nose, I took a deep breath and my shaky little hands sprang into action. I started with some damage limitation by deleting the social media posts and Pinterest pinned images. I threw the print back into Adobe Photoshop, erased the problem (I wish we could do this in real life sometimes!) and re-drew the hand lettering to make it say ‘Woman’ instead of ‘Women’. Then I realised that I didn’t only have to erase the problem on the actual print but also go back and re-edit the photographs of the print, the framed set up of the print etc etc not only on my blog post but on my Etsy listings too. Yikes!

Within about half an hour all was rectified and the world hadn’t been hit by a failure rock the size of the sun and no one had died because of my silly little mistake.

But for that milli-second (I swear it felt like I had aged a whole decade of my life) it consumed me. I was so scared that because of a simple, correctable error, that everyone would think I was a total sham. A failure. A fraud. I felt like people would judge me on my mistake and deem my art and my work not worthy of buying. That my sales would hit rock bottom, that no one would read my blog anymore, that someone wouldn’t trust me enough to buy from my Etsy shop because I couldn’t do a simple thing like check my wording on a print. This all, of course, was not true. It was made up by the little anxiety gremlins in my head that like to rear their ugly little heads when I am scared or panicking or overwhelmed.

I didn’t let them win. I think that this is the one thing I will take away from this lesson learnt (apart from now triple checking my work) I will never let them win. I will pick myself back up and make it right. I will take a deep breath and do my very best to fix the problem, and most importantly not beat myself up too much about it.

I will not unpack and live in that place. I will allow myself to have a little cry, a few little sniffles and then I will move forward.

I mean, I am not saying that I felt a huge deal better after rectifying the problem – Don’t get me wrong,  I was a mess and felt truly frazzled. I felt burnt out from everything that was going on around me that made me make the mistake in the first place. I hauled by bum back upstairs to bed, got under the duvet and watched Disney’s Peter Pan for the rest of the afternoon. I Instagramed about my day and chatted to my lovely Etsy group on Facebook and I was bowled over by the support. Which is when I realised that it is not just me.

People mess up every day. Sometimes they are small, fixable silly little mess ups, sometimes they are bigger and more damaging but either way they (hopefully!) survive to tell the tale.

Once I had stepped away from it all I could get a bit more perspective and by the following morning I realised that life definitely goes on. What makes me so important to think that anyone even cared, let alone noticed!? I don’t even mean that in a self-deprecating way, just that in the grand scheme of things, in this big wide scary world, the only one who cared about the mistake and judged me was…Me (and possibly the 50 people that still went on to like that photo before I deleted and re-posted it) Phew! Lesson Learnt.

To be honest it was a good little warning sign that I just needed to step away from things for a bit, get into my blanket fort and relax away from the world, even if it was just for an afternoon.

The funny thing is, in hindsight obviously, is that my ‘Just want to nap’ print actually went on to be featured on the fantastic creative lifestyle blog Live It. Love It. Make It. in their latest ‘New in Handmade’ blog post. Funny how things turn out isn’t it! You should check out their blog too – It is super fun and inspiring – they are really lovely ladies too. 

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So… now all of that is out of my system I can talk more about the exciting adventure we are embarking on! We have finally moved house! Hooray! We bought our old house about two and a half years ago but it turned into a bit of a nightmare with the neighbours from hell. You can read about it more in my It’s Not You, It’s Me (and why this isn’t a break up) blog post and further here in my Eliston Button is 3! blog post with the more recent updates! Yikes! 

It is a brand new town for us that neither of us have ever lived in before with a lot more opportunities and a better life overall for us both. I loved living in the town I grew up in but nasty people made it impossible for us to enjoy our home or allow us to have the freedom we should have.

I am so excited to explore and adventure in our new town and feel free and happy and safe again.

As a lot of you lovely, regular reader Buttoneers know, this move has been a long time coming for us and I am super excited to be able to share the journey with you.

 
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It took us forever to box up the house – If I never see packing tape again I will be soooooo happy! The adventure ahead of us made it a lot easier to see the huge beaming light at the end of the tunnel though so it was a lot easier to keep going night after night of boxing and packing and organising.

Moving house is an excellent way of being totally ruthless with clearing out your stuff!

We had hoarded so much stuff in our time in the old house that we just didn’t need or want anymore – it was a bit of a drastic spring clean! My biggest fear was packing up the Eliston Button Headquarters and pretty much left it to the absolute last minute to even start boxing it all up. I was desperate to have a seamless blogging and making schedule through the duration of the move that I just had to keep going. When I started my Create 30 blog challenge, I hadn’t really factored in a huge house move in our future and just knew I had to keep going to be able to fit in all 30 makes before June – I still have no idea if I will reach the end with it all done and dusted but I will darn well do my very best! 

It was also really important for me to keep the Eliston Button Etsy Shop open across the move too. I was launching Create 30 makes every so often and wanted for them to always be available rather than closing my shop for a while. I safely packed up my shops handmade goodness into boxes and they came in the car with us – There was no way on earth I was going to leave my precious crafty treasures under someone else’s care!

This way I had everything to hand to be able to package up orders and tie them with a bow ready to fly their way to their new homes with minimal disruption or sheer panic from me – I am a bit of an organisation freak! 

To be honest, I have to admit there was a part of my inner organisation freak that totally loved having to methodically work my way around a room and neatly pack it into boxes like a home decor version of Tetris. I packed like a boss! Labels and colour codes, room instructions and heavily taped up boxes, including a super organised ‘essentials’ box for the first week in our new home were created with almost military precision (and total bossy-pants-pointing and clipboard-check-list-making!) – I got a bit carried away but boy was that stuff organised! At some point I will make a blog post dedicated to an organised house move. 

Anyway, I am off to unpack what feels like the millionth box and figure out how we are going to make/build/extend to create a new Eliston Button Headquarters – I will be sure to keep you all updated as we progress in this super exciting adventure! I will leave you with a few photos from our move process so you can sit back with your cup of tea and be blooming glad you didn’t have to do it! Haha! 

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Eliston Button Headquarters in Temporary Storage in the Living Room from House Move - Why It's Okay To Make Mistakes (and a Life Update) at www.elistonbutton.com - Eliston Button - That Crafty Kid – Art, Design, Craft & Adventure.

  1. Taking apart the Eliston Button Headquarters was the WORST! Not only do I have no idea what the new craft studio will look like, but it was a mammoth task! It took waaaaay longer than even I had anticipated and I seriously regretted leaving it until the last possible day to start – Yikes! 
  2. It looked sooooo empty. During the morning of the house move I was rapidly packing up our kitchen (with the excellent, last minute help of my Mum and Dad who were absolute gems!) so by the time I had finished, the Eliston Button Headquarters was no more. I missed it all. I went back to a totally empty room and it was so weird, especially without all of the bookcases and storage units – let alone the buttons and beads and crafty goodness!
  3. We filled not only a massive lorry, but also a smaller one too – oops! I think a bit more sorting is required when we start to sift it all out of the boxes. 
  4. A good portion of the Eliston Button Headquarters is temporarily being housed in our living room – It doesn’t fit into the spare room in the new house with all of the boxes everywhere – Time to get figuring out a build/extension fairly quickly I think! 

It was such a big move but I am so happy to be in our new town full of new adventures!

Have you moved house recently? Have you made any mistakes that you have well and truly learned from? How did you move forward with your lessons learned? I would love to hear all about it! 

If you missed my latest Create 30 blog challenge make, my Craft Supply and Stationery Enthusiast illustrated prints are now over in the Eliston Button Etsy shop – Feedback so far has been wonderful – Thank you! 🙂 

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Until next time, meet me for a chat with a cup of tea in the comments below. I’ll click the kettle on! 


4 Comments

  1. Sharron
    March 16, 2017 / 1:33 pm

    All the best in your new home and new adventures. xx

    • Eliston Button
      March 16, 2017 / 3:35 pm

      Aw! Thanks so much lovely! 😘

  2. salbone
    March 16, 2017 / 4:28 pm

    I hope you’ll be very happy in your new home Rachel. By the way, you are way too hard on yourself. Even when the mistake was pointed out I couldn’t see it and no-one would think the worse of you for a little typo. Take care and keep up the brilliant work. xxx

    • Eliston Button
      March 16, 2017 / 4:45 pm

      Aw! Thank you Sally! Your a sweetie 🙂 It always feels worse in the moment doesn’t it – a little hindsight and I am way more okay about it now! Xx

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